What if marriage was a requirement for salvation? What if God graded our faithfulness based on spousal approval of our marriage. It is not, but what if it were? There are verses in the Bible that place a premium on this relationship that tell us that it was very important to God. But our salvation is based solely on our trust in the Lord.
Romans 4:16 reads “It [salvation] is of faith that it might be by grace.” I’ll leave it to the preachers to explain that, but what we’re saying here is that only our faith in the Lord is required for salvation.
But what if salvation did depend on the marriage relationship—according to the Biblical standard. Here would be the rules based upon the scriptures. But I’m not going to share those scriptures with you because I don’t want anyone starting another religion. God knows we have enough! Let me only remind you of what Paul urged: “Husbands love your wives!” [Ephesians 5:28].
Here are the rules based on a casual reading of pertinent scriptures:
- Marriage is defined by the physical relationship not a ceremony. What this means is that a casual physical relationship outside of marriage is an oxymoron.
- Marriage biblically is defined as a heterosexual, monogamous, lifelong relationship. What this means is that we should think twice about whom we marry or how long we plan to be married before we get married. There’s an eye opener!
- Thirdly, the heterosexual relationship is defined as a “Oneness” or one flesh, not only in terms of the physical aspects of the relationship but because it is a relationship between a man and a woman when everyone knows men and women do not think alike. We could define that oneness as reaching a point of understanding and appreciation of those differences. I think that’s what God had in mind! Two different pieces to one puzzle that can make an awesome picture when put together!
- The fourth rule is we get one do over, one reset, one divorce, if things aren’t working out. This means that if we are on a second marriage, a second physical, intimate relationship, it has to last the rest of our lives with one exception, rule #5.
- Anyone that is 60 years old or older is exempt from remarrying.
- Rule #6 is: Persons who are or remain single can have a special dispensation if they choose never to marry. “Never” means also never having been married previously.
- Lastly: This all kicks in at Salvation. Before one knows the Lord these rules don’t apply. Salvation is a start over. I will give you this verse: 2 Corinthians 5:17.
Aren’t you glad the Lord asked you to trust Him only and not yourself! [Ephesians 2:8].
